You can’t be the most talented in the room, but you can be the most competitive.
I was told these words recently when I felt I was failing in everything I did. You can say I got an epiphany. I truly needed these words.
See when I look around, I see people who have failed at atleast one thing in their life. Whether defined as a minor or major fall but one way or another we have fallen short of what was expected. We haven’t always been successful. I have struggled with accepting failure in my life and for a person who has failed a lot I find it to be ironic.The thought of all that hard work gone in the drain, but does it really go in the drain? I don’t think so.
Excellence is a continuous process and not an accident. Each time you fail you learn what not to do and you try out another alternative. If you ask me, am an experienced lady on how not to do things. Sounds funny?
I won’t lie, I wear it with pride because life is teaching me and I am certainly learning. I am becoming better and undefeated. I am receiving and transforming my mind. Giving up and being rendered hopeless is not an option.
Here is what I know, it won’t be easy staying competitive. It won’t be easy convincing yourself to go on, to try again, to put extra effort. You will be demotivated, discouraged and disappointed in yourself. You will probably shed a tear or two or more depends on how much water you had earlier. Maybe you will also throw yourself a pity party, if you can manage the expense which is loss of valuable time. The benefit of that is between nothing and absolutely nothing! Let that sink in.
Life doesn’t hold the door for us to catch up. Its not your butler ! Life does not wait for us to get our momentum back or gather our broken pieces. See what life does is move on with or without you. Life goes on whether you are whole or in pieces, it waits for no one because it doesn’t owe you anything. I learnt that the hard way. Thinking life owes me an explanation, that it wasn’t always my fault.
A lot of us find it easier to push around the blame. The problem with that is you won’t ever grow and learn from your mistakes. Life doesn’t own you anything. Its life! If you and I can’t work hard, it won’t compromise to suit us. No hun, it won’t drop down its standards.
So as comfortable as it feels to be on the floor and lick your wounds, that’s not where you belong. Yes people will probably see that you are limping and are bruised. People will always talk, that’s just how people are. Some of your closest won’t even offer you a hand to get up. Take note that nobody owes you a hand, everyone is busy in their own affairs. Be there for you, dust yourself, gather your things and start moving.
You might consider taking another route, quickening or shortening your pace, whatever you feel you should try, go for it but make sure that you are moving again.
Let’s get to work.